Reader Request- Love Marriages in India?

Today something  someone gave me a pleasant surprise..I got a message from someone with a very positive feedback on my blog posts,as well as a request for a post on "Love marriages in India". I was shocked.. I have a fan? Omg..that means I have a reader *wipes tears of joy* :) Okay,so I can't ignore the request of my 1st reader/fan..so here i am with a post on Love Marriages in India!

Well,to begin with..this topic is relevant only for India and some other Asian countries where in marriages.love is secondary..In our Indian culture,we are brought up with certain do's and don'ts. In the list of don'ts "Falling in love and marrying your love" is at the top! Yes,you HAVE to marry BUT you can't marry the one you love..wait,you can't fall in love. That's a big taboo in our society. I have seen educated people belonging to good families creating a havoc when their son/daughter chooses a life partner on their own. The moment you bring a life partner of your choice,you bring utter disgrace to your family,to your culture and traditions!

In India,we don't have marriage..we have "Marriage business deals" where the target of parents is to "Select the best product bride/groom available in the market according to their budget and requirements.And when you choose your own partner just on the basis of "love" this doesn't leave any option for your parents to choose a perfect product match for you. When I say perfect match,it doesn't include the fact that the person loves you or not and has a similar mindset like you!. It simply means someone-

>Who is financially stable.

>Who is of your own religion and caste.

>Someone who belongs to a good family.

>Someone whom you they find suitable and perfect for you.

While making this business deal match making for you,all your parents want is "Your Happiness" They want you to live a happy and secure life. 

I'm not taking sides,but when it comes to marriage,I firmly believe that if you are a person who is not open to a lot of adjustments and is rigid and stubborn..then  it might be very difficult for you to have a happy married life in case of arranged marriage.

Okay the topic given to me was "Love marriages in India" and I have seen some very successful and happy love marriages in India. 

Marriage is all about love,affection,concern and sacrifice..Even love marriages won't work if you can't sacrifice for your love. 

My advice-

If you love someone and believe that the person is perfect for you,then convince your parents in a proper manner.Tell them that you want to start a new life with their blessings. Try to explain them the fact that "Love marriage" is not something to be ashamed of! In fact one day when they would see you  living a happy married life,the perfect choice of their children would make them proud.

It's also important to understand that marriages do fail in many cases.Assume a case of arranged marriage which was totally the parents' decision and children obeyed blindly..and It failed badly! Does it means that they should blame their parents and keep cursing them throughout their life for the mismatch? No!! Same is the case with love marriages..when they fail,you can't keep blaming and cursing your children cause they fell in love with the wrong person.

Time has changed,and people are changing. It's not correct to follow everything at the name of western culture or progress..BUT what's wrong with embracing something which won't hurt you in any way? Love marriage is one such thing! It's my personal view that marriage is a very important decision of life and should be left on the person who has to marry. Its high time people in India should stop making such a big deal out of it. And for God's sake,you are not saving the honour of your family when you brutally murder a couple who wanted to marry! We are in the 21st century..it's time to grow up.

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Blame her..because she is a girl!!

Hey everyone..so this is the 3rd post on my blog,and its about girls. No I'm not here to discuss cosmetics,dresses or shopping(Leaving all that for my next post) This is about the not so good worst condition of girls in our country..We girls don't feel safe anywhere,and yes its all thanks to those human faced monsters who somehow cant control their Attraction desperation when they see a girl wearing a short dress(Although I doubt how they get attracted to a 3 year old child) ..And how can I forget the politicians who can only blame the girls! Those people who can only find faults with the way a girl dresses up..and when everything else fails,go tag her as "characterless" WOW Isn't it? 

This is something about a common girl who just wants to live her life the way she wants-

She is a girl,so you can blame her.

If she wants to breathe in fresh air,you can blame her. 

If she has some big dreams,you can blame her.
If she smiles and spreads joy,you can blame her.
If she wears the dresses she likes,you can blame her.
If she speaks up her mind boldly, you can blame her.
If she parties and enjoys her life,you can blame her.
If she has many guy friends,you can blame her.
If she is a bit too bold and courageous,you can blame her.
If she is not meant to be kept within the four walls of home,you can blame her.
If she spreads her wings to fly,you can blame her.
But she has the potential to stand strong,and the patience to bear it all.
She has those lovely dreams to fulfill,and will not settle for any less than what she deserves.
She won't let your blames weaken her spirit.
She will fight for what is right till her last breath.
And since you just cant stop her, you can continue blaming her.

Dear girls,don't let any fear stop you from achieving your dreams..Stand strong and live your life the way you want. Make friends,wear what you want,enjoy your life,value relationships,get a good career of your choice and fall in love!! But always raise your voice against any injustice.. and stay strong,no matter what!

Dear boys,you can bring in the change..Its high time you understand the fact that- "Real men respect women" Respect your girl first and then only you can expect your friends to respect her! 

Dear politicians and so called moral policemen, If you are only here to blame the girl after every case of molestation and rapes,we don't need you..i have just two words for you- GET LOST!!

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We are privileged..Thank the Almighty!

Hey friends. i am back!! And with something that i wrote many years ago. I wrote this when i saw the 4 kids of my maid sharing a piece of biscuit and realised how privileged we are..just felt like sharing this on the blog so here it is..
                                         
  THE CURSE OF POVERTY

Poverty is a curse..yes that's what it is!!
People living under the shadows of darkness,far away from any thoughts of bliss.
When a small child in shabby clothes sleeps on the road in a winter night
Doesnt anyone feel the pain,an urge to remove this curse with all their might?
When parents toil hard whole day to get a meal for their kids and family
and then go home,distribute the food and themselves sleeps hungry
We dont get our favourite dress and complain that life is bloody unfair
But never give a thought about those who are living every moment in despair.
The tragedy of the poor is that they can afford nothing but self denial
For them,saying no to their dreams becomes a daily ritual.
In a span of time,the dreams in their eyes die a natural death
as the prayers to sustain themselves become a part of each breath.
For these people two meals a day is the definition of ultimate happiness,
How can they dream big ,try to get some education or success?
When each day of their life,they have to work to survive.
They cant afford any fun or holidays if they have to stay alive.
What can they contribute to the success  or development of the nation
When all they can think about is their worst fear of starvation.
In a country where almost half of the population live below the line of poverty
What is the scope of development until we eradicate this completely?
For getting to the root of poverty it requires great deal of efforts
We have to step out of our own shell of luxuries and comforts
We need to change the dimensions of our thinking.
To free people from the clutches of poverty
The only weapon we can use is literacy.
When you educate people,you show them a way to live
Spread knowledge as that is the best that you can give
Try to remove illiteracy and poverty
and India would be a much better place to live!

PS-Whenever you can,try to educate a child..u never know how you can change their lives.
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Hey Everyone!! My first post :)

Hello everyone, 

This is my first ever blog!!

Welcome..Okay a big warm welcome to my small lovely world :)

I am Suboohi aka Subi, an IT Engineer by proffession,or you can say,by mistake!!.Engineering was never my thing,i just got into it somehow(Yes i somewhat blame my good marks in maths during school days for this disaster)  I belong to the city of nawabs..Lucknow and im absolutely in love with this place :)

Why this blog?Because everyone has a blog these days..?? NO.. Well,for the one simple reason that i love to write. I always knew i had to start a blog,but was so busy with studies and all the boring work stuff..and finally i managed to take time for something that i love :) 

What i like? Umm well there is so much to like in this lovely world..but still i chose the hypothetical Edward Cullen(No not now,i have grown up from those college days) Ok i like honesty and honest people(so rare these days)..i love reading novels(give me a nice novel and i can forget food) Wait wait i absolutely love food :D I like lovely,vibrant colors..I like beautiful weather,I love nature and scenic beauty... :) I like winning contests(Who doesnt? ;) I love shopping and lovely surprises,I like dresses,shoes and cosmetics.. (Yes,Im a girl!)

What kind of posts to expect on this blog? Anything and Everything :P Okay to be precise,I am gonna share anything that is worth sharing in my life..You can expect some articles on current issues of our country(No i wont bore you to death) book reviews,movie reviews, dresses,cosmetics,haul posts,random pictures,and at times i do Rant!! You can also expect some poetry on the blog!

One more reason why Im starting this blog is because of my quest to learn.I want to become a better writer and learn a lot from this blogging world. I have been following few blogs for quite some time now,and i really hope i can do some justice to writing.

In short,this is my small platform to share,about the things i care..Follow me if you dare Yes i know its called #BadRhyming.. But since its my first post,i think its Fair :P (Oh sorry,I did it again..)wait wait dont leave my blog,ill remember you in my prayer!! #BadRhyming yet again :D

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